Women are more emotional than men, thus they must have a harder time handling heartbreak, right? Wrong. Generally, while this may be the common belief, more often than you think, guys have a very difficult time processing and dealing with breakups and the feeling of vulnerability post breakup. Since men are often shaped to be the tough one, it can be more challenging for them to open up and express themselves emotionally. However, there are some clues to help you determine if his heart is broken and if he is struggling under that macho exterior.
Speechless and shocked
Guys can be so upset that they just go into shock due to their own feelings. This can be as extreme as them calling in sick for work or not engaging in full conversations at all except a “hello.” When a man is trying to process all the emotions of heartbreak, sometimes the most obvious sign is their complete shutdown of normal behaviors.
Busy as hell
Once they get over the initial shock, men tend to fill their day with distractions. You can tell this is happening because he’s hanging out with his boys more often, trying new hobbies, new books, or burring himself with projects at work. Basically, he’s doing anything to fill his time to avoid facing reality. Guys are good at convincing themselves everything is normal and awesome.
Stalk you on social media
Just as women do, men may find themselves in non-stop creep mode as they go through all your social media accounts. They end up cross referencing your posts with other sites, check who you are tagging, and figure out where you are checking in. While you are posting and behaving like you are totally fine, he is heading deeper into the emotional, downward spiral of Facebook and Instagram.
Sometimes signs guy’s heart is broken can be more subtle. He may begin to quietly reflect on the relationship and himself. Perhaps he even loses sleep while trying to make sense of what went wrong and if you were so miserable back then. They may even reach out to you to ask some of these lingering questions to help get closure.
Sex with anyone who gives them attention
Once a guy has been heartbroken, he tends to regain his game by basically having sex with any girl who even just smiles at him. This can be one of the main signs a guy’s heart is broken. Even that annoying girl at the bar, if she’s talking to him and flirting, he may just go for it just to feel good about himself again.
Check out mentally
When a man is going through heartbreak, they will get sudden flashbacks of the woman who stole their heart at any time. It could happen even when watching the game with their guy friends. While zoning out, they think of what could have been and what they should have done better.
Fall into a deep depression
They daydream of you and recall all the wonderful memories, and now, no other woman is good enough. Guys with a broken heart can fall into a bad slope of depression where every day is a sad one. Perhaps they even text you some simple message just because they want to know you are still there. When showing this sign of heartbreak, he wonders if he can win you back while playing sad songs all day long.
Signs of anger with holes in their bedroom wall
One of the signs guy’s heart is broken can be that he seems to aggressively take it out on random items. There’s a period gap between the breakup and a guy getting angry, like really angry. As they process these emotions, the tension is often expressed through breaking things, like ripping up some old photos, punching hole in walls, or burning the stuff his ex left behind.
Dealing with all of the emotions and the build-up of sadness, anger, and confusion, a guy can get pretty tired and worn out. Between video games and movies, a man who is heartbroken has all the needs to stay in and sleep endlessly.
Hunker-down at home with a movie and snacks
Typically this is a sign of heartbreak reserved just for women, but believe it or not, guys handle the healing process just like women. They stock up on delivery and sweatpants with no plan except hope that after a few days they’ll be healed from the breakup.
Head to the gym way more than normal
For some guys, after a hardcore heartbreak there’s nothing like a hardcore gym session. In order to release all of those unfamiliar emotions, a guy needs to tough it out. That means grunting and sweating at the gym to ease the pain of the heartbreak. When you’re not sure what’s going on with him because he’s spending way too much time at the gym, he may be struggling with
Erase all signs of you like you were never there
Surely one of the signs guy’s heart is broken is when he erases all evidence of you and the relationship like neither ever existed. They just tend to treat the whole thing like it didn’t happen and delete you from their memory as a robot.